Psychological impact while growing up.

Throughout my schooling years, I have always encountered stigmas, prejudice, and misunderstandings. I want you to know what these kinds of negativity will do to the kid growing up. First, it is not the child’s fault he/she was born deaf. I would use stigmas I faced, and I hope it would never happen to the child out there.

While I was growing up, I had to go through years and years of speech therapy. Because my speech was too vague for other people to understand. It is compulsory for deaf children who are learning to talk. A huge chunk of the parent’s time and money goes to the medical treatment of their kid. During that period, they made fun because of the way I talk. They might come and say now, it was for fun. But no, it is never fun for the kid that is most insecure about the way she talks. I used to keep a distance away from other kids. They have no filter and can straight away ask questions. But when an adult does, it hurts more.

I realized, maybe when I spoke my first word they would have cried tears of happiness.

To explain, take an egg, for example. The parents try to crack the egg, a little by little encouraging her to talk. Praising her for whatever their deaf child has done. The kid smile, understanding she has made her parents proud. Out at school, the kids make fun of her. The teacher says, “you can’t talk, you are rather loud and bothersome”. It makes the child squirm back to the egg. They lose all the parent’s efforts. And they have to prod the eggshell and encourage her.

I’m always self-conscious about the way I talk. I remember while doing speech therapy along with my mother and the teacher. I told every word correctly and clearly. My mother was proud. She cried. The teacher asked me, “Do you know why your mom is crying?” I was perplexed and nodded my head. Then, she explained, “You did so well. She is proud of you. She is crying tears of happiness.” Every parent wanted what is best for their deaf child or all of their children.

Since that incident, I realized, maybe when I spoke my first word they would have cried tears of happiness. They would be proud of every small thing I do. For instance, attending a mainstreamed school, interacting with others. The parents will praise a hundredfold every small thing a deaf child does. Please think before you say something rude to a deaf child. And please teach your children to do the same.


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